There are times in life when you want something to happen, and it happens, but the other way, the opposite way. It feels like you have been knocked down, you feel sad, you just want to cry, cry harder and harder, but it's okay to feel that way. I too went through all those feelings, so it's okay to not be okay. There is no big deal. What's not okay is that you're pretending to be okay. Here I'll talk about the book "Who moved my cheese" because it guided me to find my way. If you haven't read that book, no problem you'll still understand this podcast. Also, I'll talk about some of my thoughts that I discovered while I was healing, that helped me to understand the concept of HEALING. Before I started my journey as GWM, I was suffering from depression. There was some stuff going around my life that lead me there. That journey, the journey before GWM, was tough, and the toughest part was I had to travel all by myself and it was also the best part because traveling alone taught me the concept of HEALING. If you're sad, you're low or depressed that means some thoughts are going around in your mind, that can be related to your past, your wanting that wasn't fulfilled, or can be anything that's causing pain, that's not important right now, What's important is that it's your thoughts, your memories that's causing pain. Things that don't exist in reality, it is only present in your mind which is causing pain. For example, if you want something in life, let's say if you want a car and you didn't get and you're sad, you're feeling low, so you're sad not because you didn't get the car, you're sad because of the thought of you getting the car that wasn't fulfilled and that thought is the actual reason behind your feelings. And now if you change your thought of not getting what you want to accept that you didn't get, where is the problem? You won't feel low, you won't be sad and you'll work even harder to get it. So your problem lies within your thought. In life, change is necessary. Everything in life will not go according to your will. Things will change, your wanting may not be fulfilled every time, so you have to move with the change. We are sad, we are suffering because of the things that have changed from what we thought it to be. If you want to heal you first need to allow yourself to feel. Feel your pain, feel your emotions, don't stop yourself from feeling, don't find an escape from your feelings. You can run away from your feelings, but once you're tired and stop running you have to deal with them again. So it's better to allow yourself to feel, face it rather than escaping it. Change is necessary, it will help you to grow, but escaping change will take you nowhere. So the book "Who moved my cheese" where cheese is the metaphor for what you want in life, made me realize that change is necessary. If I want to be a better version of myself, I need to learn to adapt according to the change. According to the author, when in life you're experiencing change, you act like one of those four characters from the book. Those characters are the mice:- snuff and scurry, the little people same size as the mice:- Hem and Haw. So sometimes we may act like Sniff:- who sniffs out change early, or Scurry:- who scurries into action, or Hem:- who denies and resists change as he fears it will lead to something worse, or Haw:- who learns to adapt in time when he sees changing can lead to something better! Remember accepting and adapting to change is the only permanent way out. For Example, if you're in a relationship and for some unknown reason you broke up, and now your sad, feeling depressed, but there is no other way than to accept it. I know you were thinking that it would have ended the other way, you two were great together, you could have married each other, but those were only the possibilities, and possibilities have changed, now you are no more together, you just need to understand and accept. Don't be like Hem be like Haw. Your relationship might not be the best, if it was, it wouldn't end. Maybe this change can lead you to something better! A better life partner that you deserve! So if you want to heal you first need to allow yourself to feel, and secondly, ask yourself, if that thing, that fear of losing someone, or those memories of someone that's hurting you wasn't there, you won't remember them anymore, or your fears weren't there in you, what would you be doing? You just cry for those same memories over and over again. If you're crying it's not because of your past, take it as your past is a film and you're crying for those 3-4 scenes from the film that you remember and those scenes keep on repeating over and over again whenever you cry. In other words, you're crying for the same memory over and over again. See in this way that one memory consisting of only 3 to 4 scenes, that one memory is the reason behind your feelings, that one thing is the cause of all your sufferings, that one thing is breaking the Whole of YOU. Believe me, you're the universe, and the pain is a microscopic dot inside that universe. See it as a pillar withstanding the weight of a ceiling, if there's a very small crack in that pillar, will the pillar fell off? No, it won't. The pillar is you and the crack is just your sufferings caused by the ceiling, caused by your problems. I know some people might say that the crack might not always be that small to affect the pillar, it can be as big to break the pillar. Believe me, the problem is just the problem it can never be big or small, it's you who make your problem seems big or small. And no matter how big or small your problem is, one thing is sure that no problem can be bigger than your existence, than YOU! So don't allow that one thing to cause so many sufferings that can break YOU! Understanding the fact that how small is your problem and how big you are, is the only way how you actually HEAL. so WHO YOU ARE? WHO ARE YOU? and WHAT'S YOUR WORTH?
Comments